I really like to be right.  Like, a lot.  In fact, if I think a debate or disagreement is possible, I will rehearse both sides beforehand to make sure I can win.  And if I end up losing anyway, I will usually just agree to disagree and get out of there as soon as I can.  It is pretty unhealthy, actually.  But hey, I’m awesome.  So there’s that.

I think most of us hate to be wrong.  Sometimes it’s about pride.  Sometimes it’s about principal.  But it is always about not having to admit you were wrong all along.  Admitting you are wrong is one of the hardest and most humbling things you can do.

As Christians, we have to believe we are right.  If we did not think we were right about Jesus, we would not be Christians, after all.  Our experience with Jesus Christ is something we should never waiver on, as it is the basis of who we are.  But sometimes I believe that our feeling of “being right” turns into a need to be right that can become a real problem for us.

Debating sports or politics or Pinterest recipes is one thing.  It is much easier (although not always easy) to admit you are wrong about these things.  But when we are debating serious, personal issues, we always need to know that we can validate our own thoughts and feelings.  We need to know that we are right so we can justify continuing to believe the way we do.

Being confident to the point of conceit can be detrimental to your ability to share the love of Christ.  If you refuse to admit that you are wrong, or that it is even a possibility, you instantly build a wall between yourself and anyone in earshot.  That wall can prevent them from being open to your testimony, from being willing to share their story with you, and from seeing who Jesus Christ really is in you.

If you are wrong, admit it.  If you are right, be humble and allow some room for the other person to be right as well.  Your pride and your ego are not worth even the possibility of hurting your ability to witness. 

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. (Philippians 2:3-4 NIV)

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