Individuality is greatly valued in our culture.  It seems like everybody wants to be anything but “like everyone else.”  It used to be unacceptable to go out of the way to make yourself stand out.  It seemed arrogant and odd.  Now, the more unique you are the more appreciated you seem to be.  Times…they are a-changin’.

So what’s the big deal?  What is wrong with being different?  On the surface, absolutely nothing.  If you want to dye your hair purple and get your lips pierced together, more power to you.  If you want to walk backward all the time and only sit on things that are purple, have at it.  But when it comes down to the core of who you are: your values, beliefs, and basic moral compass, you need to seek out folks that are just like you.

I am not saying that you should conform to the beliefs of the people around you.  You should be yourself.  I am also not saying that you should never spend time with people that challenge you.  That is the only way for you to truly grow and solidify what your core values really are.

I am saying that the people you choose to spend the majority of your time with, those that you share your life with, should have the same fundamental life principles as you do.  That is the only way that you can really understand, support, and encourage each other in a real way.  Knowing that the people around you are all coming from the same basic belief systems is the only way that you can move forward together, or individually, with any confidence.

“If a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand.” (Mark 3:25 NIV)

Do you value the same things as the people that you choose to call family?